They Misspelled Our Name
Welcome to Real Life . How would my dad adjust to my mom’s death? They were so close, inseparable later in life. _____ Before my mom passed away, she assumed we’d visit her grave often. “It’s near the shopping center. You can stop by to see me before you buy groceries,” she used to say, as if we were going to sit down for coffee and donuts with her at the cemetery. But, after she died, the thought of going to her grave made my heart ache. So, I didn't go. However, as summer was ending, I felt an obligation to take my father to the cemetery before the weather changed. I knew that if dementia had not impaired his memory, he would have asked me to take him. I decided to ask him, “Do you want to visit Mom’s grave?” “Momma zomrela ( died )?” my father asked in Slovak. “Yes,” I answered. “How long?” “Nine months.” It’s hard to know how much Dad remembers. He knows Mom is gone. She no longer shares his room at the nursing home. I posted her obituary near hi...